I See You

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Hello? 

Are you Listening?

Yes, you.... the one reading this post.

I think we need to talk.

I hear that you are not going as big as you should be and that you are frustrated your not already there.

I hear that you get all fired up that you will go big as hell then life happens. Things get in the way, and then everything just goes to hell in a handbasket.

Guess what, you are not alone. I mean it.

Most people struggle with this. How do I know? Look around. 

What do you see?

A bunch of people walking through life on autopilot. They look lost, confused, and stuck.

But not you. Know how I know? I see you.

I see you dreaming, wishing and hoping. 

I see you looking for more and fighting to go for it.

That's a solid start. Now you have run.

RUN! 

Run like your tail is on fire. Through a log on your internal flame and go for it.

Not sure how? Need a little help? 

It's OK I got you. How about we jump on a call for an hour and we see if we can figure out what you need to run towards?

GO ahead you can schedule it here. Schedule a Call

Know where you want to run to but a little unsure what steps to take. I got you. Lets set up that call. Schedule a Call

Already running and need a kick in the ass. Ya, I got you too. Schedule a Call

RUN LIKE HELL!

Donnie

3 Steps to Success. 2 Steps Forward 1 Step Back

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I learn something new every day. Sometimes its knowledge from books and people. Sometimes it’s from screwing things up. I have found that success is a goal and it steadily moves.

There are absolutes to success. Three significant steps to become successful. Are you Ready?

Step 1: Define Success. What does success mean to you? How does it look? How does it feel? What does it sound like? How does it taste? You must put a solid definition of success to know how to get there. Often people put success as fame and fortune, but they don’t define it for themselves. You must Define success so powerfully that you can already feel like you have achieved it. When you tell others what your success is, they should feel your passion in obtaining it.

Step 2: Work your ass off. I get visioning boards, mantras, and positive self-talk and I won’t say don’t use them. If they work for you, then, by all means, go for it. The truth behind all of that motivational jargon is that if you are not taken massive action and diligently working your ass off, then they will never work. Success is a lot of constant work and continued repetitions. Get after it and go big. Use self-talk, Mantras and anything else you want as long as you are working harder than the persons next to you.

Step 3: Learn to take 1 step back. Embrace that you are going to screw up. You are going to make mistakes, and you are going to break shit. Failure is the nature of success. The harder you go for it, the more you are going to learn. Learn that it is not going to be easy and that you will have to go through the shit to get to the good stuff.

Unless you are will to do the 2-step (2 steps forward and 1 step back) then you will not find success. That’s it three steps, Define Success, Work Hard and Break shit. Now, what are you going to do about it?

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Stop Trying to Teach

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Racing through life people are quick to give advice. They are so geared up to help someone out by telling, they never stop to ask if its OK.

Early in my career, I was very guilty of this. I was constantly trying to walk people through some book I read or some seminar I went too. Luckily people tend to listen when I spoke but others did not. It was like I was trying to force this information on them. Willing them to learn. I thought if they knew what I knew then they could get the results I did.

You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself — Galileo

This quote and some sage advice from a mentor changed everything. Living your life by telling what you know never works. If you want to help others then you must create an environment of discussion. Open verbal collaboration in where personal discoveries can be made. Allowing room for deeper thinking and allowing others to add their thoughts.

Sharing wisdom is a gift but only if the audience is receptive. If you want to share your knowledge then stop teaching and start asking questions. Help people to come up with their own discoveries. When speaking to an audience tell them not to take notes on what is said. They should take notes on what they think as a result of what is being said.

Change the conversation by being a willing participant and everyone grows.

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Be The Fountain. Not The Drain

Explode With Compassion

Explode With Compassion

I have an acquaintance we call Eeyore. He walks through life as if everything is doom and gloom. It’s Chicken little the sky is falling and that makes it hard to be around him. He is a good guy just a real Debbie Downer.

As we move through life our actions and words tell a story to all the people around us. Do you inspire others or do you bring others down? Do you beat people up verbally or build them up with encouragement.

We are a flame like a torch in a dark cavern. Part of our job in life is to be the point man and light the way for others. We must keep our flame lit and feed it so it grows and explodes with badassery.

Fill your mug with knowledge, spirit, and strength and rise up. Toast to the world and conquer it this is your destiny.

 

Be The Fountain. Not The Drain

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Saturday Morning Pick Me Up

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You are a badass. You were born badass and you are awesome.

Today, is a good day to go kick some ass. Go bigger than you would, and show the world how badass you are.

Your inner flame is lit. Now throw some logs on the fire and explode. Make that fire so big it lights everyone’s fire around you.

Explode into life and run like hell towards your destiny.

You were created to inspire others and to be the flame.

I am proud of what you have accomplished and excited to see how far you go.

Do what you love and the universe will take care of the rest.

3 most motivating words in the world. “You’re Gonna Die” said by Gary Vaynerchuk

Lead yourself to greatness you were not meant to follow.

Chase your passion, chase your dreams and Run Like Hell!

Get regimented with your life, it will change how you play the game.

If you are not journaling you are not succeeding.

Get a mastermind it will help you master your mind

Be More, Be More You, and Kick-Ass

Run Like Hell!

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If You Have A Dream Go After It.

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Since an early age, I have wanted to speak in front of audiences and bring real value. Inspiring people to take action in their own lives. I loved watching others do it and I always enjoyed watching the light in someone's eyes when something resonated with them. 

The only problem I had with doing this was I thought I couldn't make money doing it and it didn't seem like a real job. That one word held me back for way too many years.

Oh, what word? Job! J.O.B or Just Over Broke.

I grew up with the belief you had to have a job. You had to go work for someone else earn a days pay and rinse wash repeat. It didn't occur to me that I could do something on my own. The thought really never crossed my mind. The word entrepreneur never had a definition I understood and no one around me was doing it. 

Like most people, I went from job to job living a mundane life. It was depressing and gloomy. Don 't get me wrong I have had some great life experiences and done some cool stuff. But most of my life was spent living someone else's dream. Almost like living someone else's life. 

Now that I am chasing my own dream the only regret I have is why didn't I do this sooner. Why didn't investigate my dream earlier? Now I am charging after a 22-year-old dream and just getting started. My patience is crap and I want everything now. Imagine if I had 22 years of already running under my belt. 

Some of us are late bloomers I get that. If you are reading this don't do what I did wait until you are 40 to chase a dream. Do what I did at 40 but do it now whatever age you are. Chase after your dream and go for it. The earlier you start the more you can compound success for the future. If you are like me and have always wanted to chase your dream but now you're older then start. Don't wait any longer, without starting you can't begin the compounding process and you will never see what you are made of.

Chase after your dreams and Run Like Hell. Look at the world and say hold my beer and watch this shit. 

Anytime Life Gets Hard It Means You Leveled Up.

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Anytime life get hard it means you have leveled up. This statement has been like a warm blanket on a cold day for me. Getting my coaching business going has been successful and trying. Like playing a game where and you just beat a boss and now you have started a new stage. You have all your skills, weapons, and knowledge you are now just taking on bigger bad guys, beasts, and uncovering new areas.

I have leveled up a few times in my life. Promotions in the Marine Corps, promotions in jobs and career changes. Every time I have moved there has been a steep learning curve. I took on jobs that were bigger than I thought I was and every time I figured it out. It wasn’t easy but we all know the saying if it was easy everyone would do it.

I think this is why people stay doing the things they hate. They don’t believe they could handle it if they were to level up. The truth is they can, they are just afraid of whom they will become along the way.

I look at it this way. Each time you level up you know you have bigger more badass weapons coming your way. Stuff that you haven’t even thought of and each level has unique tools to take on its challenges. That stuff excites the hell out of me. It helps me understand that shit is going to get tough. Odds are I am going to get my teeth kicked in a few times. At the end of the day, it’s about the grind of the level and learning to play with your new skillsets.

Your leveling up. Remember at the start of the level shit is tough you have to figure the right lanes and the new equipment. The equipment doesn’t appear you have to break shit and blow some shit up to make it happen. You may even have to start over a few times. Either way, you have to keep moving forward towards the next boss and learn how to kick his ass. Sometimes the right teammates can give you tips to get better at the level this is why we have coaches, masterminds, and mentors.

Go through life trying to hit the max level in your game. Become the #1 in the world of being you. I think you will be surprised how badass you are and what you can accomplish.

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What I Learned From Journaling

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What I Learned From Journaling

For years and years, I fought against journaling. Gurus, coaches, and mentors told me I need to journal. However, no matter what I tried I just couldn’t make it work. Not Journaling continued to frustrate me, so I gave up.

However, we know life happens. At one point when my career had hit a low on guidance from my coach, I decided to change my mindset and figure out journaling. I realized I was journaling to prove it didn’t work. I was trying to write from the mentality of limitations vs. a mindset of self-development.

This slight change of journaling to prove it would work helped tremendously. As I began to journal I found that I had too much crap rolling around in my head. I was bitching and moaning more about life than I thought I was, and I was more frustrated that I realized.

As I began to write, I was able to put a perspective on my gremlins and find unique ways to beat them back. My head trash became less of a thing to slow me down and more of a challenge to conquer.

As I continued to change my mindset, everything began to change as well. My perspective on life got more positive and real, and I became a less negative person. I grew more intuned with myself than I had in years past and ultimately I began to like myself. It was a fresh experience, and I started to explode in my career.

Every day I was journaling I was learning new insights and becoming more genuine and real. Life became fun, and everyone around me saw a vast difference.

What I learned from journaling was life is good. Life is great and every day is a good day. My personal demons are not that scary and I am who I want to be. I challenge you to start journaling, and maybe you can have this breakthrough discovery too.

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What is your Regiment? What I Discovered When I looked at my Calendar.

Is Your Schedule Broken?

Is Your Schedule Broken?

Recently I looked at my schedule and freaked the hell out. Since starting my coaching business, I have been busy figuring everything out and learning what things I enjoy about running a business and what I hate. It has been very gratifying and surprising. I freaked out cause I had an open spot on my calendar. 3 Hours with nothing in it and it made me nervous. How could I let this happen? I was pretty hard on myself because it made me feel like I was half-assing it.

So I started looking at how I am running my coaching business to see how I could have that large of a gap in my schedule. What I discovered was I was only regimenting part of my day. I was going through a lot of motions but wasn’t creating a lot of actions.

Action drives attitude, so inaction is the decline of a company or worse a demotivator and a hit to your self-esteem. So, I decided to kick it up a notch and get more regimented with my time. I began by looking at my calendar defining where was I spending most of my time. Was I client/prospect facing or was I doing busy work? Interestingly it was both, but I was doing busy work when I should have been growing my business.

Now my schedule is way more regimented and aligned with my companies growth goals. (Which are lofty) I kept my morning routine of writing an article and posting on social media, journaling, and exercise. I changed up my times on meeting with clients and prospects and adding in more prospecting time. I improved my networking by reaching out to contacts and having conversations and referral discussions.

What is cool about this regimented change is my attitude is brighter, my outlook better and the company is growing. I just needed a good ole swift kick in the ass. Which came in the form of Timothy Ferriss’s Book, The 4 Hour Workweek.

Look at your daily regiment and see where you can improve your activities. It may be the change your business or career needs and allow you to kick some ass.

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Challenge The Day

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Challenge The Day

Challenge the day or seize it. Either way, today is a good day to get after it and go for it.

Often people are waiting for that perfect moment before they decide to move forward. You don’t have that luxury it will never be perfect. It will never be just right. If you keep waiting, then it will be just gone.

Lean down lace up your boots, and let’s get to work. Look forward instead of back and do something. Do anything that gets you taking action. Once you start moving, don’t stop you need the momentum to carry you through the tight spots.

Some people slow down through the holiday season. When you slow down, it destroys growth and attitude. It mentally shuts you down, and it’s like turning off the engine of your car in winter. Once the engine cools off, it can take some time to start. Keep the engine warm with activity.

Activities can be almost anything as long as it focused on growth for you. Growth can be learning, growth can be building, and growth can be helping someone else.

This day is yours to celebrate. Embrace it and go big as you can and watch what happens.

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Why You Shouldn’t Go With What You Know

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Working with one of my clients will call her Sally. Now Sally was married at 18 years old and had her first child. She wanted to work, wanted a job, so she took the first thing that was in front of her. Sally took a job at a fortune 500 being an admin something she never wanted to do. As she worked at this company, her fears became a reality. Sally hated her job, but it paid the bills.

So for 15 years, she toiled away a job she didn’t love. Why did she stay? It paid the bills albeit paycheck to paycheck. Then she got laid off, corporate downsized. 15 years of work tossed out the window. She learned some great lessons had grown in the company but didn’t survive an economic downturn.

So Sally took a risk and with some friends open a small entrepreneurial business. They ran this company for two years before they couldn’t make enough revenue to keep it going. They had to shut it down. Feeling like they gave it there all.

In frustration, Sally went and got another job for another fortune 500 as an admin. Appling all over the place, but all that Sally could find was a job she did not want.

She hated the job, and for 18 years she went to work not filling fulfilled with her life. She always felt like she had more to give. More to do but could not figure out what that thing was. At year 18 with this company, she was laid off. They moved her position out of state. 18 years she gave her all received several promotions and awards and nothing.
 
Now she found herself in a position of figuring out what the next venture would be. 2 grown kids and husband for over 40 years what was she going to do. By the time she got to me, she was heading down a path of coaching medical device companies how to manage their teams. She had strengths growing middle managers into leaders. It was the world she knew and even though it didn’t excite her, she felt like it was the answer to what she should do next.

As she told me what she was going to be doing I could see it in her eyes there was no sparkle. There was no joy in it. She was creating another job for herself, and she was scared it wasn’t going to be successful, and it wasn’t going to be because her heart wasn’t in it.

I asked her why to go down this path, and she responded like so many others I have coached. “its what I know.” I said, but you don’t love it. She said hell no, but it could be a paycheck.

When people look at their lives they only see whats right in front of them they don’t see the future and the impact they can have on their own life and the life of others. They focus on the now and what is the quickest means to get what they need. Isn’t that frustrating? Doesn’t that wear you out? Just trying to get by.
 
After talking with Sally, we discovered that she wants to keep people from making the same life choices she made. She wants to tell them that they can get out of that lifestyle and do what they love and get paid for it. And guess what? That’s what she is doing. Coaching people and speaking to audiences about how to get out of the cycle of their lives and do what they love.
How awesome is that?

Stop taking the easy path and jumping into what is in front of you. Chase your passion chase your dreams and watch what happens. Being unfulfilled in life leads to a place of sickness and depression. You are built for so much more. Go kick some ass and have fun like Sally is doing.

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Why you Should Stay Future-Focused

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Ever been driving along thinking about your dreams and goals. Picturing yourself in your most perfect life then WHAM reality hits that your broke and living paycheck to paycheck?

This present focus happens to a lot of people. An experiment “the marshmallow test” was conducted years ago by professor Walter Mischel. What he did was bring a bunch of 4-year-olds into a room one at a time. Mischel would then place a marshmallow in front of the child and tell them they were allowed to eat it now, but if they would wait 15 minutes before eating it, then they would be given two marshmallows.

I thought simple enough until I spent time with a four-year-old.

Here were the findings. Something along the lines of 70% of the kids ate the marshmallow immediately while 30% waited the full 15 minutes. What is the point of all this?

The kids that that waited for the 15 minutes when researchers followed up with them 15 years later had some very telling stories. These kids became higher achievers than the kids who ate immediately. In whatever field they chose academics, arts or sports they performed at significantly higher levels than the other children.

The ability to focused on Future gains or delayed gratification is one of the best indicators of success in the future.

People tend to focus on what is right in front of them instead of looking at where they are going. This is why so few people achieve their dreams. If you want to go big and hit your goals, then you have to delay gratification. Focus on the big goals and let the now take care of itself.

Get disciplined as hell knowing that the things you do today, echo in our future. You do the things now not because you must but because of the benefits of the future. Living for today is a sure fire way to go broke quickly and fail at your life’s mission.

The marshmallow study has been duplicated several times you can even find YouTube videos on it. The results remain the same 70% eat the marshmallow instantly while 30% wait the 15 minutes. Learn to delay gratification now and stay future-focused and watch how big your life gets.

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