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Stop Trying to Teach

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Racing through life people are quick to give advice. They are so geared up to help someone out by telling, they never stop to ask if its OK.

Early in my career, I was very guilty of this. I was constantly trying to walk people through some book I read or some seminar I went too. Luckily people tend to listen when I spoke but others did not. It was like I was trying to force this information on them. Willing them to learn. I thought if they knew what I knew then they could get the results I did.

You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself — Galileo

This quote and some sage advice from a mentor changed everything. Living your life by telling what you know never works. If you want to help others then you must create an environment of discussion. Open verbal collaboration in where personal discoveries can be made. Allowing room for deeper thinking and allowing others to add their thoughts.

Sharing wisdom is a gift but only if the audience is receptive. If you want to share your knowledge then stop teaching and start asking questions. Help people to come up with their own discoveries. When speaking to an audience tell them not to take notes on what is said. They should take notes on what they think as a result of what is being said.

Change the conversation by being a willing participant and everyone grows.

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Why You Shouldn’t Go With What You Know

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Mundane

Working with one of my clients will call her Sally. Now Sally was married at 18 years old and had her first child. She wanted to work, wanted a job, so she took the first thing that was in front of her. Sally took a job at a fortune 500 being an admin something she never wanted to do. As she worked at this company, her fears became a reality. Sally hated her job, but it paid the bills.

So for 15 years, she toiled away a job she didn’t love. Why did she stay? It paid the bills albeit paycheck to paycheck. Then she got laid off, corporate downsized. 15 years of work tossed out the window. She learned some great lessons had grown in the company but didn’t survive an economic downturn.

So Sally took a risk and with some friends open a small entrepreneurial business. They ran this company for two years before they couldn’t make enough revenue to keep it going. They had to shut it down. Feeling like they gave it there all.

In frustration, Sally went and got another job for another fortune 500 as an admin. Appling all over the place, but all that Sally could find was a job she did not want.

She hated the job, and for 18 years she went to work not filling fulfilled with her life. She always felt like she had more to give. More to do but could not figure out what that thing was. At year 18 with this company, she was laid off. They moved her position out of state. 18 years she gave her all received several promotions and awards and nothing.
 
Now she found herself in a position of figuring out what the next venture would be. 2 grown kids and husband for over 40 years what was she going to do. By the time she got to me, she was heading down a path of coaching medical device companies how to manage their teams. She had strengths growing middle managers into leaders. It was the world she knew and even though it didn’t excite her, she felt like it was the answer to what she should do next.

As she told me what she was going to be doing I could see it in her eyes there was no sparkle. There was no joy in it. She was creating another job for herself, and she was scared it wasn’t going to be successful, and it wasn’t going to be because her heart wasn’t in it.

I asked her why to go down this path, and she responded like so many others I have coached. “its what I know.” I said, but you don’t love it. She said hell no, but it could be a paycheck.

When people look at their lives they only see whats right in front of them they don’t see the future and the impact they can have on their own life and the life of others. They focus on the now and what is the quickest means to get what they need. Isn’t that frustrating? Doesn’t that wear you out? Just trying to get by.
 
After talking with Sally, we discovered that she wants to keep people from making the same life choices she made. She wants to tell them that they can get out of that lifestyle and do what they love and get paid for it. And guess what? That’s what she is doing. Coaching people and speaking to audiences about how to get out of the cycle of their lives and do what they love.
How awesome is that?

Stop taking the easy path and jumping into what is in front of you. Chase your passion chase your dreams and watch what happens. Being unfulfilled in life leads to a place of sickness and depression. You are built for so much more. Go kick some ass and have fun like Sally is doing.

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How Logic Destroys Passion

Logic Destroys Passion

Logic Destroys Passion

I sat across from a gentleman today who is an awesome guy. He is caring and genuine, and he connects with people. He has been in the real estate game for a couple of years, and he sat down with me to see if I could help him grow his business.

His story was like so many others. There is not enough business coming in to justify the cost going out. Better said he needed to sell more houses. We talked about his business and figured out he didn’t have a sales problem he has a logic problem.

What I mean by logic (which is something I love) his problem was he thought a lot and did a little. Thinking, he needed more business but not taking enough action is putting him out of business.

He was running his real estate business like a part-time job. Half-assing it in hopes that it would grow by osmosis. Now truth be told he didn’t see himself as half-assing it, he thought he was working. But as we dove into it, it was pretty telling he wasn’t giving his all.

The little things he should be doing he wasn’t. They were impacting his business significantly. He has a great contact list of friends, but only 50% know what he does. He has gone to events and met people and never followed up. His social game was lacking he has a great base but not interaction. He wasn’t taking risks and was playing it safe. All of these things he acknowledged when we spoke.

Here is how we discovered it. I asked him to become his own sales manager and ask himself what would his sales manager tell him to do. His response. “Get off your ass and get out there.”

When you don’t look at our job as a business, then you only think you are working.

His thoughts were that he was intruding on people asking them out for a cup of coffee. His thoughts were that he would be seen as a sales guy if he got out there. But what we found is he has a real passion for people and has a very cool niche of people in which he can connect.

His self prescribe prescription was to do more and hold himself accountable for going big and loud. He walked away from our conversation with a mission and a gameplan and a new sense of badassery.

So let me help you out. You are a badass. Stop thinking and start doing. Action drives your attitude and courage creates confidence. If you take action, then motivation will step in and take care of the rest.

You got this, and I am excited to see how far you.

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