Goals

1 Trick to beat a Mundane Life

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For a lot of my career, I played it very safe. Taking jobs right in front of me instead of taking on my next adventure. I didn’t work to succeed I worked to survive.

It wasn’t until in my 30’s that I realized I was living life by default and not design. My time was not my own it belonged to others. I spent a good portion of my career making others wealthy while I moped through life. I would daydream for better but couldn’t find it in me to go for it.

Society has people pegged as a whole. It knows how to keep you in your station. It knows how to keep you complacent and distracted from your destiny. It knows how to throw shining objects in your path everytime you step out of line.

Not recognizing that you are playing someone else’s game now that’s risky. It’s also scary. It’s like your life is a black & white movie during the depression. Head down shuffling your feet looking for anything that could bring you food. Playing it safe ensures you never go after your dreams it means you never go big.

How do you fix it? Take a different risk. Do something that scares you not just to do it but to learn. Do something that challenges you not to scare you but to learn. A risk is a learning opportunity. It is a chance to become more educated than you were before. It gives you a shot at learning how to do something. Knowledge is power, but it is only power when you do something with it.

This world is full of smart people living mundane lives. Don’t let that be you. Go for it, challenge life and learn every day. Learn skills, processes, and abilities that allow you to go further. Rise up and be the phoenix of your life and watch what happens. If your life is dull, boring and black & white, then shake it up. We get one shot on this rock make it a good one.

Oh and one last thing, you want to really go big then do the biggest thing that scares you. Then look at the world saying hold my beer and watch this shit.

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3 Steps to Success. 2 Steps Forward 1 Step Back

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I learn something new every day. Sometimes its knowledge from books and people. Sometimes it’s from screwing things up. I have found that success is a goal and it steadily moves.

There are absolutes to success. Three significant steps to become successful. Are you Ready?

Step 1: Define Success. What does success mean to you? How does it look? How does it feel? What does it sound like? How does it taste? You must put a solid definition of success to know how to get there. Often people put success as fame and fortune, but they don’t define it for themselves. You must Define success so powerfully that you can already feel like you have achieved it. When you tell others what your success is, they should feel your passion in obtaining it.

Step 2: Work your ass off. I get visioning boards, mantras, and positive self-talk and I won’t say don’t use them. If they work for you, then, by all means, go for it. The truth behind all of that motivational jargon is that if you are not taken massive action and diligently working your ass off, then they will never work. Success is a lot of constant work and continued repetitions. Get after it and go big. Use self-talk, Mantras and anything else you want as long as you are working harder than the persons next to you.

Step 3: Learn to take 1 step back. Embrace that you are going to screw up. You are going to make mistakes, and you are going to break shit. Failure is the nature of success. The harder you go for it, the more you are going to learn. Learn that it is not going to be easy and that you will have to go through the shit to get to the good stuff.

Unless you are will to do the 2-step (2 steps forward and 1 step back) then you will not find success. That’s it three steps, Define Success, Work Hard and Break shit. Now, what are you going to do about it?

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If You Have A Dream Go After It.

Chase After Your Dream

Chase After Your Dream

Since an early age, I have wanted to speak in front of audiences and bring real value. Inspiring people to take action in their own lives. I loved watching others do it and I always enjoyed watching the light in someone's eyes when something resonated with them. 

The only problem I had with doing this was I thought I couldn't make money doing it and it didn't seem like a real job. That one word held me back for way too many years.

Oh, what word? Job! J.O.B or Just Over Broke.

I grew up with the belief you had to have a job. You had to go work for someone else earn a days pay and rinse wash repeat. It didn't occur to me that I could do something on my own. The thought really never crossed my mind. The word entrepreneur never had a definition I understood and no one around me was doing it. 

Like most people, I went from job to job living a mundane life. It was depressing and gloomy. Don 't get me wrong I have had some great life experiences and done some cool stuff. But most of my life was spent living someone else's dream. Almost like living someone else's life. 

Now that I am chasing my own dream the only regret I have is why didn't I do this sooner. Why didn't investigate my dream earlier? Now I am charging after a 22-year-old dream and just getting started. My patience is crap and I want everything now. Imagine if I had 22 years of already running under my belt. 

Some of us are late bloomers I get that. If you are reading this don't do what I did wait until you are 40 to chase a dream. Do what I did at 40 but do it now whatever age you are. Chase after your dream and go for it. The earlier you start the more you can compound success for the future. If you are like me and have always wanted to chase your dream but now you're older then start. Don't wait any longer, without starting you can't begin the compounding process and you will never see what you are made of.

Chase after your dreams and Run Like Hell. Look at the world and say hold my beer and watch this shit. 

Why You Shouldn’t Go With What You Know

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Working with one of my clients will call her Sally. Now Sally was married at 18 years old and had her first child. She wanted to work, wanted a job, so she took the first thing that was in front of her. Sally took a job at a fortune 500 being an admin something she never wanted to do. As she worked at this company, her fears became a reality. Sally hated her job, but it paid the bills.

So for 15 years, she toiled away a job she didn’t love. Why did she stay? It paid the bills albeit paycheck to paycheck. Then she got laid off, corporate downsized. 15 years of work tossed out the window. She learned some great lessons had grown in the company but didn’t survive an economic downturn.

So Sally took a risk and with some friends open a small entrepreneurial business. They ran this company for two years before they couldn’t make enough revenue to keep it going. They had to shut it down. Feeling like they gave it there all.

In frustration, Sally went and got another job for another fortune 500 as an admin. Appling all over the place, but all that Sally could find was a job she did not want.

She hated the job, and for 18 years she went to work not filling fulfilled with her life. She always felt like she had more to give. More to do but could not figure out what that thing was. At year 18 with this company, she was laid off. They moved her position out of state. 18 years she gave her all received several promotions and awards and nothing.
 
Now she found herself in a position of figuring out what the next venture would be. 2 grown kids and husband for over 40 years what was she going to do. By the time she got to me, she was heading down a path of coaching medical device companies how to manage their teams. She had strengths growing middle managers into leaders. It was the world she knew and even though it didn’t excite her, she felt like it was the answer to what she should do next.

As she told me what she was going to be doing I could see it in her eyes there was no sparkle. There was no joy in it. She was creating another job for herself, and she was scared it wasn’t going to be successful, and it wasn’t going to be because her heart wasn’t in it.

I asked her why to go down this path, and she responded like so many others I have coached. “its what I know.” I said, but you don’t love it. She said hell no, but it could be a paycheck.

When people look at their lives they only see whats right in front of them they don’t see the future and the impact they can have on their own life and the life of others. They focus on the now and what is the quickest means to get what they need. Isn’t that frustrating? Doesn’t that wear you out? Just trying to get by.
 
After talking with Sally, we discovered that she wants to keep people from making the same life choices she made. She wants to tell them that they can get out of that lifestyle and do what they love and get paid for it. And guess what? That’s what she is doing. Coaching people and speaking to audiences about how to get out of the cycle of their lives and do what they love.
How awesome is that?

Stop taking the easy path and jumping into what is in front of you. Chase your passion chase your dreams and watch what happens. Being unfulfilled in life leads to a place of sickness and depression. You are built for so much more. Go kick some ass and have fun like Sally is doing.

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Why you Should Stay Future-Focused

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Ever been driving along thinking about your dreams and goals. Picturing yourself in your most perfect life then WHAM reality hits that your broke and living paycheck to paycheck?

This present focus happens to a lot of people. An experiment “the marshmallow test” was conducted years ago by professor Walter Mischel. What he did was bring a bunch of 4-year-olds into a room one at a time. Mischel would then place a marshmallow in front of the child and tell them they were allowed to eat it now, but if they would wait 15 minutes before eating it, then they would be given two marshmallows.

I thought simple enough until I spent time with a four-year-old.

Here were the findings. Something along the lines of 70% of the kids ate the marshmallow immediately while 30% waited the full 15 minutes. What is the point of all this?

The kids that that waited for the 15 minutes when researchers followed up with them 15 years later had some very telling stories. These kids became higher achievers than the kids who ate immediately. In whatever field they chose academics, arts or sports they performed at significantly higher levels than the other children.

The ability to focused on Future gains or delayed gratification is one of the best indicators of success in the future.

People tend to focus on what is right in front of them instead of looking at where they are going. This is why so few people achieve their dreams. If you want to go big and hit your goals, then you have to delay gratification. Focus on the big goals and let the now take care of itself.

Get disciplined as hell knowing that the things you do today, echo in our future. You do the things now not because you must but because of the benefits of the future. Living for today is a sure fire way to go broke quickly and fail at your life’s mission.

The marshmallow study has been duplicated several times you can even find YouTube videos on it. The results remain the same 70% eat the marshmallow instantly while 30% wait the 15 minutes. Learn to delay gratification now and stay future-focused and watch how big your life gets.

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Without a Dream

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Yesterday I sat with a 22 year old guy that is still finding his way. He was part of a team installing Christmas lights on my farmhouse. At some point, after asking what I did for a living (Coaching Badasses), he was starting asking the big life questions. He wanted advice on what he should do, where he should go and how does he figure out what he wants to be when he grows up.

I was proud that he was asking the questions not enough people do. His entire life he said he had not had to bust his ass and get after it. He went to college and graduated, and his current job was hanging Christmas lights. Not his idea of living the dream.

He wants to fly cargo jets, and he thought it would be the best career. He had spoken to a couple of Air Force guys and was trying to figure out how to get a pilot’s licenses.

I asked him how much time he had spent at two local airports that hobbyist pilots used all the time. He said he had not been to them. Asking him why not he told me the thought had simply not crossed his mind.

When people do not have a real dream, they think about all the time their vision of themselves become fuzzy. They tend to look for a hustle versus a career.

If you have a dream, then get it in immerse yourself in it. We talked about going to these airfields and meeting people in the hangers and getting to know them. Offer to work for free to be in their world. He could even get a job at the diner on one of the airstrips.

Even if the dream is a small glimmer of an idea getting into the world, would quickly help him find out if it is a good fit or not. He can find out if that dream becomes a passion or not. Either way, he will learn some new tangible skills that will follow him for the rest of his journey.

His most significant take away was to pull his head out of his ass or better yet off the screen and get to work. He spends his hours listening or watching all the big names and diving into their stuff. Guys like Gary V., Grant Cardone, and Frank Kern. He was spending his time devouring their shit vs. actually doing something with it.

Here is what he sent me later that night.

“I need to stop googling stuff all day and just get my ass around people that I want to be like!”

That is it! If you have a dream go after your dream if you have a hint dive into it, a see what turns up. If you do not have a hint do something you have not done to help you figure it out.

I hope this helps you find your dream and your passion. Trust me it is in there get to work on you and see what turns up.

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