Life

You Do Not Fail

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First time I heard the phrase you do not fail I Laughed. Confidently I responded, “Everybody fails sometime.”

Then my coach looked at me and said. “You do not fail you give up trying.” It was the uppercut for the knockout I wasn’t expecting. I think I sat there for a couple of minutes before responding. I realized he had described different parts of my life with one sentence.

That conversation changed my life. If you never stop going for it then do you indeed fail? Sure you learn some good stuff along the way. You learn how not to do something and learn how to do something better. That’s called life not failure.

For me, it wasn’t until later in life that I learned this lesson. My lifestyle was if life wasn’t going right then get out.

- At 18 not knowing what to do with my life I ran to the Marine Corps. 
- At 22 with no direction, I ran to Saint Louis, Mo. 
- At 25 with no path and my tail between my legs, I ran back to Texas. 
- At 28 I started a website company, one client complained, and I shut down the company. (We took a job we shouldn’t have in the first place)

Every time life got tough I removed myself from the situation. I thought that if I got out of there, then I would get passed whatever was uncomfortable or at least get away from it.

Now I realize most of those times I was giving up. I gave up on learning experiences I would have to learn later. When life gets difficult, it means you leveled up. It means you now have to learn a new level of badassery. You have to learn new skills and talents. You have to get after it.

The universe will throw things your way to teach you life lessons. It will never throw you more than you can handle so be strong and persevere. When you come out on the other side I promise you will look back and go wow that wasn’t so bad.

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What is your Regiment? What I Discovered When I looked at my Calendar.

Is Your Schedule Broken?

Is Your Schedule Broken?

Recently I looked at my schedule and freaked the hell out. Since starting my coaching business, I have been busy figuring everything out and learning what things I enjoy about running a business and what I hate. It has been very gratifying and surprising. I freaked out cause I had an open spot on my calendar. 3 Hours with nothing in it and it made me nervous. How could I let this happen? I was pretty hard on myself because it made me feel like I was half-assing it.

So I started looking at how I am running my coaching business to see how I could have that large of a gap in my schedule. What I discovered was I was only regimenting part of my day. I was going through a lot of motions but wasn’t creating a lot of actions.

Action drives attitude, so inaction is the decline of a company or worse a demotivator and a hit to your self-esteem. So, I decided to kick it up a notch and get more regimented with my time. I began by looking at my calendar defining where was I spending most of my time. Was I client/prospect facing or was I doing busy work? Interestingly it was both, but I was doing busy work when I should have been growing my business.

Now my schedule is way more regimented and aligned with my companies growth goals. (Which are lofty) I kept my morning routine of writing an article and posting on social media, journaling, and exercise. I changed up my times on meeting with clients and prospects and adding in more prospecting time. I improved my networking by reaching out to contacts and having conversations and referral discussions.

What is cool about this regimented change is my attitude is brighter, my outlook better and the company is growing. I just needed a good ole swift kick in the ass. Which came in the form of Timothy Ferriss’s Book, The 4 Hour Workweek.

Look at your daily regiment and see where you can improve your activities. It may be the change your business or career needs and allow you to kick some ass.

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Challenge The Day

Challenge The Day

Challenge The Day

Challenge the day or seize it. Either way, today is a good day to get after it and go for it.

Often people are waiting for that perfect moment before they decide to move forward. You don’t have that luxury it will never be perfect. It will never be just right. If you keep waiting, then it will be just gone.

Lean down lace up your boots, and let’s get to work. Look forward instead of back and do something. Do anything that gets you taking action. Once you start moving, don’t stop you need the momentum to carry you through the tight spots.

Some people slow down through the holiday season. When you slow down, it destroys growth and attitude. It mentally shuts you down, and it’s like turning off the engine of your car in winter. Once the engine cools off, it can take some time to start. Keep the engine warm with activity.

Activities can be almost anything as long as it focused on growth for you. Growth can be learning, growth can be building, and growth can be helping someone else.

This day is yours to celebrate. Embrace it and go big as you can and watch what happens.

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Why You Shouldn’t Go With What You Know

Mundane

Mundane

Working with one of my clients will call her Sally. Now Sally was married at 18 years old and had her first child. She wanted to work, wanted a job, so she took the first thing that was in front of her. Sally took a job at a fortune 500 being an admin something she never wanted to do. As she worked at this company, her fears became a reality. Sally hated her job, but it paid the bills.

So for 15 years, she toiled away a job she didn’t love. Why did she stay? It paid the bills albeit paycheck to paycheck. Then she got laid off, corporate downsized. 15 years of work tossed out the window. She learned some great lessons had grown in the company but didn’t survive an economic downturn.

So Sally took a risk and with some friends open a small entrepreneurial business. They ran this company for two years before they couldn’t make enough revenue to keep it going. They had to shut it down. Feeling like they gave it there all.

In frustration, Sally went and got another job for another fortune 500 as an admin. Appling all over the place, but all that Sally could find was a job she did not want.

She hated the job, and for 18 years she went to work not filling fulfilled with her life. She always felt like she had more to give. More to do but could not figure out what that thing was. At year 18 with this company, she was laid off. They moved her position out of state. 18 years she gave her all received several promotions and awards and nothing.
 
Now she found herself in a position of figuring out what the next venture would be. 2 grown kids and husband for over 40 years what was she going to do. By the time she got to me, she was heading down a path of coaching medical device companies how to manage their teams. She had strengths growing middle managers into leaders. It was the world she knew and even though it didn’t excite her, she felt like it was the answer to what she should do next.

As she told me what she was going to be doing I could see it in her eyes there was no sparkle. There was no joy in it. She was creating another job for herself, and she was scared it wasn’t going to be successful, and it wasn’t going to be because her heart wasn’t in it.

I asked her why to go down this path, and she responded like so many others I have coached. “its what I know.” I said, but you don’t love it. She said hell no, but it could be a paycheck.

When people look at their lives they only see whats right in front of them they don’t see the future and the impact they can have on their own life and the life of others. They focus on the now and what is the quickest means to get what they need. Isn’t that frustrating? Doesn’t that wear you out? Just trying to get by.
 
After talking with Sally, we discovered that she wants to keep people from making the same life choices she made. She wants to tell them that they can get out of that lifestyle and do what they love and get paid for it. And guess what? That’s what she is doing. Coaching people and speaking to audiences about how to get out of the cycle of their lives and do what they love.
How awesome is that?

Stop taking the easy path and jumping into what is in front of you. Chase your passion chase your dreams and watch what happens. Being unfulfilled in life leads to a place of sickness and depression. You are built for so much more. Go kick some ass and have fun like Sally is doing.

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Explode Into Your Destiny

Go Big and Loud

Go Big and Loud

Every day is a chance to go bigger than you thought you could. Louder than you thought possible. Each day is a chance to show the world your burning flame of inner badassery. Will you light the fire?

Every day you wake up you get a chance to be thankful for another opportunity and another chance. Don’t waste it on idle thoughts or negative patterns instead rise up and go for it. Look at your day as if it is your last and run. Run so fast that your demons cannot catch you. Run so hard that your momentum carries you through the muck. Go big and loud and crash through the barriers so that when you get to the other side your negative thoughts are exhausted trying to keep up.

Each day set a plan in motion that doesn’t allow you to get complacent. Put so much action in your gameplan there isn’t time for idleness. You must take massive action to beat back your mediocre thinking and heritage. You must challenge your status quo mentality and go bigger than you have gone before.

Today is your day you may not get another one so explode so loud that your legacy echoes for eternity.

Start your day with a routine that sets you up for success. 
Journal
Think Time
Writing Time
Meditation

Schedule the rest of your day with opportunities to get where you want to go. 
Who can you meet? 
Who can you Inspire?
Who can inspire you?
What can you learn?
What can you challenge?

Go Big and Loud. Do the things that scare you and freak you out. Challenge your thoughts to run into your internal flame and explode. Watch the cinders from your fire ignite the fire in others.

That is how you explode into your destiny.

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