Are You All In?

Are You All In?

You know you want more. You envision yourself being more. Why not go big as hell and see what happens? 

3 Steps to Success. 2 Steps Forward 1 Step Back

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I learn something new every day. Sometimes its knowledge from books and people. Sometimes it’s from screwing things up. I have found that success is a goal and it steadily moves.

There are absolutes to success. Three significant steps to become successful. Are you Ready?

Step 1: Define Success. What does success mean to you? How does it look? How does it feel? What does it sound like? How does it taste? You must put a solid definition of success to know how to get there. Often people put success as fame and fortune, but they don’t define it for themselves. You must Define success so powerfully that you can already feel like you have achieved it. When you tell others what your success is, they should feel your passion in obtaining it.

Step 2: Work your ass off. I get visioning boards, mantras, and positive self-talk and I won’t say don’t use them. If they work for you, then, by all means, go for it. The truth behind all of that motivational jargon is that if you are not taken massive action and diligently working your ass off, then they will never work. Success is a lot of constant work and continued repetitions. Get after it and go big. Use self-talk, Mantras and anything else you want as long as you are working harder than the persons next to you.

Step 3: Learn to take 1 step back. Embrace that you are going to screw up. You are going to make mistakes, and you are going to break shit. Failure is the nature of success. The harder you go for it, the more you are going to learn. Learn that it is not going to be easy and that you will have to go through the shit to get to the good stuff.

Unless you are will to do the 2-step (2 steps forward and 1 step back) then you will not find success. That’s it three steps, Define Success, Work Hard and Break shit. Now, what are you going to do about it?

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Stop Trying to Teach

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Racing through life people are quick to give advice. They are so geared up to help someone out by telling, they never stop to ask if its OK.

Early in my career, I was very guilty of this. I was constantly trying to walk people through some book I read or some seminar I went too. Luckily people tend to listen when I spoke but others did not. It was like I was trying to force this information on them. Willing them to learn. I thought if they knew what I knew then they could get the results I did.

You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself — Galileo

This quote and some sage advice from a mentor changed everything. Living your life by telling what you know never works. If you want to help others then you must create an environment of discussion. Open verbal collaboration in where personal discoveries can be made. Allowing room for deeper thinking and allowing others to add their thoughts.

Sharing wisdom is a gift but only if the audience is receptive. If you want to share your knowledge then stop teaching and start asking questions. Help people to come up with their own discoveries. When speaking to an audience tell them not to take notes on what is said. They should take notes on what they think as a result of what is being said.

Change the conversation by being a willing participant and everyone grows.

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Be The Fountain. Not The Drain

Explode With Compassion

Explode With Compassion

I have an acquaintance we call Eeyore. He walks through life as if everything is doom and gloom. It’s Chicken little the sky is falling and that makes it hard to be around him. He is a good guy just a real Debbie Downer.

As we move through life our actions and words tell a story to all the people around us. Do you inspire others or do you bring others down? Do you beat people up verbally or build them up with encouragement.

We are a flame like a torch in a dark cavern. Part of our job in life is to be the point man and light the way for others. We must keep our flame lit and feed it so it grows and explodes with badassery.

Fill your mug with knowledge, spirit, and strength and rise up. Toast to the world and conquer it this is your destiny.

 

Be The Fountain. Not The Drain

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What I Learned From Journaling

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Journal Learning

What I Learned From Journaling

For years and years, I fought against journaling. Gurus, coaches, and mentors told me I need to journal. However, no matter what I tried I just couldn’t make it work. Not Journaling continued to frustrate me, so I gave up.

However, we know life happens. At one point when my career had hit a low on guidance from my coach, I decided to change my mindset and figure out journaling. I realized I was journaling to prove it didn’t work. I was trying to write from the mentality of limitations vs. a mindset of self-development.

This slight change of journaling to prove it would work helped tremendously. As I began to journal I found that I had too much crap rolling around in my head. I was bitching and moaning more about life than I thought I was, and I was more frustrated that I realized.

As I began to write, I was able to put a perspective on my gremlins and find unique ways to beat them back. My head trash became less of a thing to slow me down and more of a challenge to conquer.

As I continued to change my mindset, everything began to change as well. My perspective on life got more positive and real, and I became a less negative person. I grew more intuned with myself than I had in years past and ultimately I began to like myself. It was a fresh experience, and I started to explode in my career.

Every day I was journaling I was learning new insights and becoming more genuine and real. Life became fun, and everyone around me saw a vast difference.

What I learned from journaling was life is good. Life is great and every day is a good day. My personal demons are not that scary and I am who I want to be. I challenge you to start journaling, and maybe you can have this breakthrough discovery too.

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What is your Regiment? What I Discovered When I looked at my Calendar.

Is Your Schedule Broken?

Is Your Schedule Broken?

Recently I looked at my schedule and freaked the hell out. Since starting my coaching business, I have been busy figuring everything out and learning what things I enjoy about running a business and what I hate. It has been very gratifying and surprising. I freaked out cause I had an open spot on my calendar. 3 Hours with nothing in it and it made me nervous. How could I let this happen? I was pretty hard on myself because it made me feel like I was half-assing it.

So I started looking at how I am running my coaching business to see how I could have that large of a gap in my schedule. What I discovered was I was only regimenting part of my day. I was going through a lot of motions but wasn’t creating a lot of actions.

Action drives attitude, so inaction is the decline of a company or worse a demotivator and a hit to your self-esteem. So, I decided to kick it up a notch and get more regimented with my time. I began by looking at my calendar defining where was I spending most of my time. Was I client/prospect facing or was I doing busy work? Interestingly it was both, but I was doing busy work when I should have been growing my business.

Now my schedule is way more regimented and aligned with my companies growth goals. (Which are lofty) I kept my morning routine of writing an article and posting on social media, journaling, and exercise. I changed up my times on meeting with clients and prospects and adding in more prospecting time. I improved my networking by reaching out to contacts and having conversations and referral discussions.

What is cool about this regimented change is my attitude is brighter, my outlook better and the company is growing. I just needed a good ole swift kick in the ass. Which came in the form of Timothy Ferriss’s Book, The 4 Hour Workweek.

Look at your daily regiment and see where you can improve your activities. It may be the change your business or career needs and allow you to kick some ass.

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Why You Shouldn’t Go With What You Know

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Mundane

Working with one of my clients will call her Sally. Now Sally was married at 18 years old and had her first child. She wanted to work, wanted a job, so she took the first thing that was in front of her. Sally took a job at a fortune 500 being an admin something she never wanted to do. As she worked at this company, her fears became a reality. Sally hated her job, but it paid the bills.

So for 15 years, she toiled away a job she didn’t love. Why did she stay? It paid the bills albeit paycheck to paycheck. Then she got laid off, corporate downsized. 15 years of work tossed out the window. She learned some great lessons had grown in the company but didn’t survive an economic downturn.

So Sally took a risk and with some friends open a small entrepreneurial business. They ran this company for two years before they couldn’t make enough revenue to keep it going. They had to shut it down. Feeling like they gave it there all.

In frustration, Sally went and got another job for another fortune 500 as an admin. Appling all over the place, but all that Sally could find was a job she did not want.

She hated the job, and for 18 years she went to work not filling fulfilled with her life. She always felt like she had more to give. More to do but could not figure out what that thing was. At year 18 with this company, she was laid off. They moved her position out of state. 18 years she gave her all received several promotions and awards and nothing.
 
Now she found herself in a position of figuring out what the next venture would be. 2 grown kids and husband for over 40 years what was she going to do. By the time she got to me, she was heading down a path of coaching medical device companies how to manage their teams. She had strengths growing middle managers into leaders. It was the world she knew and even though it didn’t excite her, she felt like it was the answer to what she should do next.

As she told me what she was going to be doing I could see it in her eyes there was no sparkle. There was no joy in it. She was creating another job for herself, and she was scared it wasn’t going to be successful, and it wasn’t going to be because her heart wasn’t in it.

I asked her why to go down this path, and she responded like so many others I have coached. “its what I know.” I said, but you don’t love it. She said hell no, but it could be a paycheck.

When people look at their lives they only see whats right in front of them they don’t see the future and the impact they can have on their own life and the life of others. They focus on the now and what is the quickest means to get what they need. Isn’t that frustrating? Doesn’t that wear you out? Just trying to get by.
 
After talking with Sally, we discovered that she wants to keep people from making the same life choices she made. She wants to tell them that they can get out of that lifestyle and do what they love and get paid for it. And guess what? That’s what she is doing. Coaching people and speaking to audiences about how to get out of the cycle of their lives and do what they love.
How awesome is that?

Stop taking the easy path and jumping into what is in front of you. Chase your passion chase your dreams and watch what happens. Being unfulfilled in life leads to a place of sickness and depression. You are built for so much more. Go kick some ass and have fun like Sally is doing.

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Why you Should Stay Future-Focused

Stay Future-Focused

Stay Future-Focused

Ever been driving along thinking about your dreams and goals. Picturing yourself in your most perfect life then WHAM reality hits that your broke and living paycheck to paycheck?

This present focus happens to a lot of people. An experiment “the marshmallow test” was conducted years ago by professor Walter Mischel. What he did was bring a bunch of 4-year-olds into a room one at a time. Mischel would then place a marshmallow in front of the child and tell them they were allowed to eat it now, but if they would wait 15 minutes before eating it, then they would be given two marshmallows.

I thought simple enough until I spent time with a four-year-old.

Here were the findings. Something along the lines of 70% of the kids ate the marshmallow immediately while 30% waited the full 15 minutes. What is the point of all this?

The kids that that waited for the 15 minutes when researchers followed up with them 15 years later had some very telling stories. These kids became higher achievers than the kids who ate immediately. In whatever field they chose academics, arts or sports they performed at significantly higher levels than the other children.

The ability to focused on Future gains or delayed gratification is one of the best indicators of success in the future.

People tend to focus on what is right in front of them instead of looking at where they are going. This is why so few people achieve their dreams. If you want to go big and hit your goals, then you have to delay gratification. Focus on the big goals and let the now take care of itself.

Get disciplined as hell knowing that the things you do today, echo in our future. You do the things now not because you must but because of the benefits of the future. Living for today is a sure fire way to go broke quickly and fail at your life’s mission.

The marshmallow study has been duplicated several times you can even find YouTube videos on it. The results remain the same 70% eat the marshmallow instantly while 30% wait the 15 minutes. Learn to delay gratification now and stay future-focused and watch how big your life gets.

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Jump Into the Fire of Your Destiny

Jump Into Your Destiny

Jump Into Your Destiny

You want to fly, but don’t want to work at it. You want to run but don’t want to get after it. You want the easy road. You want to sit back and have the riches come to you. Life doesn’t work that way. You have to move towards the flame and jump into the fire.

If you don’t want to work hard, then you better find your passion. Chasing your joy is the only way to get what you without feeling like your working hard. You will work, and you’re going to bust your ass it’s just not going to feel like work because you love what you do.

Right now you get out of bed when you feel like it not when inspiration hits you. See when you chase a dream your thoughts will inspire action which will cause you to churn ideas. Ideas that will keep pushing you towards your ultimate destiny. When you jump into the fire, your thoughts propel you towards your dreams.

Your dreams will wake you up and get you going. If you are not being woke up in the middle of the night because a thought rips through your mind and slaps your brain, then you are not going big enough.

Jump into the fire of your passion and watch it explode into your destiny.

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Explode Into Your Destiny

Go Big and Loud

Go Big and Loud

Every day is a chance to go bigger than you thought you could. Louder than you thought possible. Each day is a chance to show the world your burning flame of inner badassery. Will you light the fire?

Every day you wake up you get a chance to be thankful for another opportunity and another chance. Don’t waste it on idle thoughts or negative patterns instead rise up and go for it. Look at your day as if it is your last and run. Run so fast that your demons cannot catch you. Run so hard that your momentum carries you through the muck. Go big and loud and crash through the barriers so that when you get to the other side your negative thoughts are exhausted trying to keep up.

Each day set a plan in motion that doesn’t allow you to get complacent. Put so much action in your gameplan there isn’t time for idleness. You must take massive action to beat back your mediocre thinking and heritage. You must challenge your status quo mentality and go bigger than you have gone before.

Today is your day you may not get another one so explode so loud that your legacy echoes for eternity.

Start your day with a routine that sets you up for success. 
Journal
Think Time
Writing Time
Meditation

Schedule the rest of your day with opportunities to get where you want to go. 
Who can you meet? 
Who can you Inspire?
Who can inspire you?
What can you learn?
What can you challenge?

Go Big and Loud. Do the things that scare you and freak you out. Challenge your thoughts to run into your internal flame and explode. Watch the cinders from your fire ignite the fire in others.

That is how you explode into your destiny.

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